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On OKCupid; I’m male. I do not deliver numerous communications, perhaps 3-5 each week & i am attempting to be selective & take the time to re-read a profile and write an “attractive” message. I do not get numerous reactions and i realize that some ladies have plenty of unsolicited msgs. So they may be acutely selective.

Therefore, some body awesome reacted and I also delivered a note straight right straight back later on the exact same time. Just examined: yikes, only a little over an hour or so. Now it has been two times & because of OKC’s “last visited” snoop-a-matic, I’m sure she actually is been on.

So a) must I have actually waited longer? B) will she respond? (rhetorical: I’m yes i am being impatient) c) the length of time must I wait time that is next?

I assume we possibly could make use of the right time and energy to write a draft response & allow it to sit for dispassionate review.

Present & related: simply closing communication, callous as it can appear, in fact is the norm and perhaps in fact is an easier let down than “on 2nd thought perhaps perhaps not interested” message. The 3 rule still sort of exists, for some people, anyway day.

I assume we could make use of the time and energy to write a draft response

Oh do not do that — it’s going to be obvious, and it surely will oftimes be too much time. You do not even understand that which you may be giving an answer to. Calm down, go after a stroll. Move away from your pc. Do not bring your smartphone. Awesome person either will or will perhaps not react, it is from the hands now. Posted by desjardins at 1:41 PM on April 1, 2011 2 favorites

Information point: we frequently read communications appropriate away. I do not react until once I’ve thought about any of it just a little, and therefore little bit of procrastination means often it could take a few times for me personally to obtain around to it. The timing of my reaction is not actually pertaining to the timing regarding the other individual’s (caveat: we you will need to react to every message I have, and We have the impression that’s not the norm). Do not stress away way too much about any of it.

Additionally, exactly exactly exactly what Lyn Never stated. Published by Vibrissa at 1:51 PM on 1, 2011 1 favorite april

If somebody writes if you ask me and it is interesting, i just just take about a to respond day I shall go through the man or woman’s profile then think about a thoughtful response, particularly in the message that is first. I am going to generally reduce the time taken between communications in the future.

I usually take things at the responder’s pace if I write someone first. Me, I will wait at least a day to write to him if it took 2 days for the guy to respond to. I do not wish to overwhelm individuals.

We often feel overrun whenever individuals react too rapidly.

It really is a tricky situation and I do not understand most of the proper answers. I had also toyed using the notion of asking the same concern to yours to obtain an over-all opinion of whether We’m following internet dating etiquette. Published by parakeetdog at 1:52 PM on April 1, 2011

So a) should I have actually waited longer? B) will she respond?

A) probably maybe perhaps not b) possibly published by empath at 1:52 PM on April 1, 2011 3 favorites

We get e-mail observe that i’ve new okc communications and can often utilize the mobile site to learn a brand new message. OKC implies that we’ve logged on, but we never compose reactions from my phone – that occurs in the when I can log into my home computer weekend. But i do want to look at the inbox just in case a night out together terminated, etc.

We don’t/wouldn’t read any such thing into response times. Do not compose a reply to a note you haven’t seen yet. Otherwise, whatever you’re saying seems good. Anecdotally, we normally have a primary contact reply rate of 20-30%, i believe which is fairly normal.

Ideally you feel a lot better so now you have got a lot of near-instant responses that are askme.: ) published by momus_window at 1:58 PM on 1, 2011 april

That you don’t like to regularly react to the exact same individual within an hour or so, since which could conjure a graphic of a man desperately sitting around on OKCupid 24/7 willing to instantly answer any person in the exact opposite intercourse who deigns to publish to him.

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